My experience is that you must focus on and visualize your desired outcome… but you must let go at some point to release the energy into the Universe.
I know that some LOA books and gurus say you should concentrate on your desired outcome until it has manifested in your life, but personally, I’ve found that doesn’t work for me.
It’s like playing fetch with a dog. You throw the stick, and the dog brings it back but then refuses to let go of it.
So you get stuck in a game of tug-’o-war until either you or the dog gets tired and gives up.
Yeah, well, okay, maybe not the greatest analogy. But my point is if you never let go of your end, Spirit doesn’t get a chance to grab His end and throw it back at you in the form of manifest reality.
Also, if you focus too much and too hard on your wish, the process can take on a feeling of despair.
And despair is not a good place to be in when trying to manifest anything.
Despair signals that you don’t have what you want. In other words, it indicates lack.
Remember, if you already have what you want (which is the mindset you need to achieve to manifest successfully), there is no despair and clenched teeth… only joy and gratitude.
Also, in very simple, non-LOA terms, being a bit more relaxed pays off in most situations.
Finding a partner: Simply put, humans have a very keen instinct for neediness and intuitively avoid it. So as long as you’re desperately looking for Mr. Right, guys won’t touch you with a 10-foot pole.
But, as I’ve experienced first-hand, as soon as you resign yourself to the fact that you’ll be on your own for the rest of your life and will live with grumpy roommates like the Golden Girls, Mr. Right candidates will start breaking down your door.
Getting pregnant: Another great example of “just relax.” I’ve seen this several times. Women who tried unsuccessfully for a long time to have a baby and then gave up and made new, alternative life plans suddenly became pregnant.
So, whether it’s LOA or simple common sense: It always pays off to let go of your wish at some point.