My experience is that you must focus on and visualize your desired outcome… but you must let go at some point to release the energy.
I know that some LOA books and gurus say you should concentrate on your desired outcome until it has manifested in your life, but personally, I’ve found that doesn’t work for me. If you never let go of your end, God doesn’t get a chance to do his part.
Also, in very practical terms, being a bit more relaxed pays off in most situations.
Finding a partner: Simply put, humans have a very keen instinct for neediness and intuitively avoid it. So as long as you’re desperately looking for Mr. Right, guys won’t touch you with a 10-foot pole.
But, as I’ve experienced first-hand, as soon as you resign yourself to the fact that you’ll be on your own for the rest of your life and will live with grumpy roommates like the Golden Girls, Mr. Right candidates will start breaking down your door.
Getting pregnant: Another great example of “just relax.” I’ve seen this several times. Women who tried unsuccessfully for a long time to have a baby and then gave up and made new, alternative life plans suddenly became pregnant.
So, whether it’s manifestation or simple common sense: It always pays off to let go of your wish at some point.